“Intimacy…can only occur when the heart is undefended.”

To cut through our personal differences… means learning how to love and be loved without defenses and without obstructions. It means cultivating the capacity to be emotionally present even when we feel exposed or vulnerable, learning to relinquish the many strategies we have employed to feel safe and in control…

Connecting with the person you love isn’t just about having a companion, or forming a close partnership. Most of us hope for a truly intimate relationship, where the connection between us is direct, unmediated, and heart-to-heart. This book offers a challenging new way for readers to reach just such a higher level inside themselves, where they can experience a relationship that is fresh and unrehearsed.

Read More about this book HERE.


Many people “die” in their 50s and just aren’t buried until their 80s. That’s because they did not take the full journey available to them at midlife.

The good news is that at midlife your story is only have told. But there is work to be done. The whole point of midlife is to allow – even force – a re-evaluation of who you are and the life you have created, giving you your very best chance to discover, realize, and actualize your deepest spiritual nature in every day life.



The undefended approach – to love and the life stage of midlife – is a path that dares to suggest that most people live in the basement of themselves, not daring to seek the treasures in the sun-flooded rooms upstairs. It is their birthright to live upstairs, yet they remain in one little corner of the basement all their lives, decorating it with curtains and throw rugs.

Undefended Love and Hidden Blessings use relationship and midlife as crucibles…

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Taking the Midlife Leap, One Step at a Time
May 6th & 7th, 2017 (a non-residential workshop held in Berkeley CA)

Hidden Blessings: Midlife Crisis as a Spiritual Awakening – Mid-life Mastery Summit
An online event, starting May 25th, 2017. Details to come!

Hidden Blessings: Midlife Crisis as a Spiritual Awakening
(evening talk & book signing event at the Center for Spiritual Living, Santa Rosa, CA)
Friday, August 4th, 2017 | 7-8PM

Taking the Midlife Leap, One Step at a Time
October 6th – October 8th, 2017 (Esalen Institute)

Learn More About Midlife Leap Classes Here
“The seminar was a Hemingway experience: ‘The earth moved.’ It was a most profound and moving experience. I was able to get in touch with a whole side of myself that I didn’t know was there and now afterwards, it just keeps revealing itself more and more. My work now is to make it all an integral part of me.
Ann Gaviria, Bogota,Colombia
“When I take other workshops I get to learn the material the teacher is presenting. When I take a workshop with you, I get to know my-Self.”
Chris Zimmerman
“The metaphors and language you use are so loving, inspiring, and paradigm shattering all at the same time! I feel like I was immersed in a new life force during the retreat and that my heart is beating in a new rhythm now as I move back into my life.”
Xavier L, Bogota,Colombia