Undefended Love: When Close is Not Close Enough


Open to Everyone (with or without partners, in a relationship or single)
Facilitator: Jett Psaris

October 20th & 21st, 2018 (Berkeley, CA)
The workshop is full but there is a chance of getting in on stand-by. Please write to me directly at my email address, jett@jettpsaris.com, to express your interest in attending.

The capacity exists in all of us to love without defenses or requirements, so that real intimacy-direct, unmediated, heart-to-heart connection with ourselves and with our partner-becomes a lifelong expression of our deepest nature.

This is the power of Undefended Love, a transformative path that guides us beyond close, companion-based partnerships toward intimate relationships, where each moment is a fresh, spontaneous expression of who we genuinely are.

This workshop, open to couples and individuals, offers a vision to cut through personal differences and reach the direct connection-with ourselves and others-that can only occur when the heart is undefended. The focus is on shifting our center of gravity away from our conditioned personality (the places where we feel stuck, confused, hurt, and defensive) toward our essential self (the part of us that is free, whole, connected, peaceful, powerful, and joyful).

Through lively experiential practices, participants will learn:

  • What unconditional love really is and how to achieve it
  • How to sustain our experience of ourselves regardless of what our partner is feeling
  • How to “dissolve” rather than “resolve” relationship problems
  • When “needs” can be unexpected guides to undiscovered inner resources
  • How problems can be entry points to deeper connection
  • Why there is no difference between men and women when it comes to intimate loving
  • How comfort and safety can prevent rather than promote intimacy

Recommended Reading: Psaris & Lyons, Undefended Love.

General Information

This non-residential, weekend intensive will be held at: The Sacred Stream Center, 2149 Byron Street, Berkeley, CA.

Hours for the intensives
On the Sat. morning of the intensive, please plan to arrive at 9:45 for registration.
The intensive will take place on Saturday and Sunday, 10 am – 6 pm.


If you cannot attend the entire workshop [i.e. arrive on time and stay throughout the weekend to its close on Sunday evening], please do not register at this time. These intensives are designed in such a way that late arrivals or early departures affect the work both for the person unable to attend the entire weekend as well as for the other participants in the course.I will arrive on time and stay through the entire course.

Saturday Night: The course is rigorous so please plan to rest quietly on Saturday evening if at all possible. Saturday night will be your time to rest, integrate the material from the first day of the course and prepare yourself to continue the exploration on Sunday.

Cancellation and Refund Policy:
If a request for cancellation is received in writing 30 days or more before your course start date, the course fee is fully refundable. If written request for cancellation is received in writing less than 30 days before your course start date, $100 is non-refundable, regardless of the reason for withdrawal. If a written request for cancellation is received in writing 7 days or less before the course start date, $200 is non-refundable, regardless of the reason for withdrawal.

I have read and agree to the cancellation and refund policy.

Lunch, Snacks, Water Bottle, Journal and Pen!
Please bring your own lunch and snacks. The Sacred Stream Center does not allow food or drinks, (other than water) in the group room so bring a water bottle! You will need a journal and pen as well. No electronic devices – phones or iPads, etc. – will be allowed in the meeting room to ensure participant confidentiality. There will be an hour break for lunch and there are two cafes within 2 blocks of the Center if you prefer not to bring lunch with you.

I will remember to bring my lunch, snacks, water bottle, journal and pen!


Fee for the intensive:
Early Registration (by September 1st): $425 per person
Regular Registration (After September 2nd): $475 per person

The workshop is full but there is a chance of getting in on stand-by. Please write to me directly at my email address, jett@jettpsaris.com, to express your interest in attending.

“The seminar was a Hemingway experience: ‘The earth moved.’ It was a most profound and moving experience. I was able to get in touch with a whole side of myself that I didn’t know was there and now afterwards, it just keeps revealing itself more and more. My work now is to make it all an integral part of me.”
Ann Gaviria, Bogota,Colombia

“I feel like I ‘rubbed noses’ with so many other beautiful beings throughout the weekend. However fleeting these relationships might have been, they felt powerful… and empowering. So many kind, open and honestly searching souls (as opposed to helpless folks desperately seeking fast answers and quick fixes)!”
Dr. Adrian Bartron

“I’ve taken workshops all over the world and this was, simply put, the most transformative experience of my life.”
Kim Li-Chang

“When I take other workshops I get to learn the material the teacher is presenting. When I take a workshop with you, I get to know my-Self.”
Chris Zimmerman

“The metaphors and language you use are so loving, inspiring, and paradigm shattering all at the same time! I feel like I was immersed in a new life force during the retreat and that my heart is beating in a new rhythm now as I move back into my life.”
Xavier L

“I’m not sure that I have words big enough to express my gratitude for this beautiful work.”
Nicole Boxer-Smith

“I am deeply moved by the work I experienced this weekend on intimacy… It has facilitated a new inner strength that I cannot fully describe. What I can say is that I feel lighter, my neck and lower back free from the weight of my previous defense of holding myself rigid to protect from the fear of connection and uncertainty. Through this new inquiry about vulnerability and flexibility, I have accessed a deeper connection to my essence which I now somatically feel in my body. Thank you so much!”
Mike Thomas